How to set screen time limits

A screen limit is easier to hold when it is not invented in the middle of an argument.

Short answer

Decide in advance when screens are available, for what kinds of use, and what marks the end. Explain the framework simply and apply it consistently enough that your child can predict it.

What you can do

Create rules that are concrete rather than vague. “Less screen time” is hard to understand; “screens after homework, until dinner” is clearer if that fits your family.

Give advance notice before stopping. Use timers if they help, but remember that the adult still holds the boundary.

Protect some screen-free moments, especially those you want to preserve for connection, conversation, meals, or sleep routines.

What you can say

“You can be upset that it's over. We're still turning it off.”

“You can choose what to watch during screen time; you can't choose when screen time ends.”

What to avoid

Avoid using screens as the automatic solution to boredom, distress, or every waiting moment. Also avoid rules that adults cannot realistically maintain.

Adults and children do not need identical rules, but adult modelling matters.

If the limit creates constant conflict

Look at whether the rule is clear, whether exceptions are frequent, and whether the screen is replacing other needs or activities.