You as a parent
Parenting is not only about children’s behaviour. It also confronts us with our own tiredness, our history, the way we react, and differences with our partner.
The adult is part of the situation too, which means the adult also has room to change it. This is not blame; it is agency.
If you are losing patience
When you reach your limit again and again, deciding to “be more patient” is not always enough.
If you made a mistake, repair is also part of parenting. Apologizing does not remove the boundary or your authority.
If you recognize patterns from your own childhood
Noticing an automatic response gives you the chance to start choosing what you want to build in its place.
If you and your partner parent differently
You do not need to think exactly the same way about everything. It does help to agree on a few core principles and avoid putting your child in the middle of adult differences.
You do not need to be perfect
Being a role model does not mean never making mistakes. It also means being able to notice, take responsibility, and try again.
If you often lose control, are afraid you may hurt someone, or the situation feels overwhelming, seeking professional support is a responsible way to care for your family.
Tell Kora what happens to you in that specific situation. Understanding your own pattern is also part of understanding what is happening with your child.
